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- Don’t argue with them.
- Stay calm.
- Respect their ideas.
- Make use of positive words in the house.
- Understanding perspective doesn’t hurt either.
Let me talk about the most important thing here first – stubbornness is characterized in children right from their birth. However, handling a stubborn child can be very, very difficult. For parents who have stubborn kids, getting to do even the basic things is a task in itself. But one thing is for sure, it is the way how you take care of their stubbornness in childhood depicts what kind of adults they will turn out to be. So, you must learn the ways to deal with a stubborn child.
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You must also be wondering why it is that certain kids become so stubborn right from the beginning is. Well, the answer to it is that they want to be in charge of what they’re doing. In simpler terms, they want full control over everything. You may think it is a nightmare correcting a stubborn child, but it is not really. You just have to be patient enough to not lose your cool and trust us, you’ll be just fine. Here are some of the best tips to help you deal with your stubborn kid.
Don’t argue with them
One of the things with stubborn children is that they are very obstinate and instead of listening, they want you to listen. It is a natural tendency in us parents to argue and correct the kids’ behavior. But it also doesn’t harm to try and listen to what your kid has to say either. Arguing with them only makes matters worse. So as a parent, your best bet is to listen to what they have to say calmly and not argue.
Calmness is key
I can very well relate to this point because I, myself, have a stubborn toddler in the house. Calm is the last thing on your mind when your child just won’t agree to listen to you. And all we want to do is shout at or scold them in order to correct their behavior. But guess what? Losing your calm seldom works. For a stubborn child it is difficult to make sense of what he is doing and you, as an adult have the responsibility of sensibly handling the situation rather than losing it yourself.
Respect their ideas
Stubbornness comes from trying to be in control. And every once in a while, you should try to listen to what they have to say and respect their decision. For stubborn kids, forcing authority on them never works. So you have to build your way up to that by respecting their ideas and feelings.
If your kid insists on doing something himself, let him do it independently, unless of course it would harm him in any way. Do keep supervising him/her but let them take control too every once in a while. This shows that you respect their ideas and they will also feel like in control.
Make use of positive words in the house
Reinforcing positive behavior makes things so much easier for not only the child but also parents. A lot of times a child picks up things subconsciously that he hears in the house. Say if you make use of the word “NO” a lot, there is a good chance your stubborn child has also learnt to say “no” to almost everything. So reinforce positive behavior and avoid using the words in front of your kids that you don’t want them to pick up.
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Understanding perspective doesn’t hurt either
Perspective is a thing every parent should try. Sometimes we think that our child’s stubborn behavior is meaningless and correct it using wrong means by shouting at them or dismissing everything they say. This is not the right approach, however.
If your child is adamant at doing or not doing something, try and understand the reason behind it instead of coming at a conclusion yourself. Maybe he doesn’t want to play outside because he has trouble making friends, maybe he doesn’t want to do home-work because he has problem with it. So understand what is causing the stubborn behavior and act accordingly.
Have you dealt with a stubborn child? Share your personal tips with our readers in the comment section.